Eu nao sei se um dia casarei...hoje a unica certeza que eu tenho e Jesus em minha vida. E, Ele, somente Ele, tem todos os dias e acontecimentos da minha vida em suas maos. No entanto, se isso acontecer, espero que seja com um homem que me ajude a praticar o que Marshall Segal compartilha abaixo.
I do not know if one day I will get marriage...the only thing I have today is Jesus in my life. He, only Him, has in His hands and knows all the days and what will happen. But, if He makes this happens someday I wish would be with a man that will help me to practice what Marshall Segal shares bellow.When the Not-Yet Married Meet: Dating to Display Jesus
Dating is dead.
So says the media. Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections. Don’t sit around waiting for a boy to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on the phone. Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes.
I beg to differ. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or that it’s not the current and corrupt trend of our culture. It’s wrong. One of our most precious pursuits, that of a life-long partner for all of life, is tragically being relegated to tweets, texts, and Facebook pokes, to ambiguous flirtation and fooling around. It’s wrong.
If fullness of life could be found in sexual stimulation, or if it was just a matter of making babies, the “forget formality and just have sex” approach might temporarily satisfy cravings and cause enough conception. But God had much more in mind with romance than orgasms or even procreation, and so should we. So must we.
When people in the world are expecting less and less of each other in dating, God isn’t — so among the single we have to work harder in our not-yet married relationships to preserve what marriage ought to picture and provide.
Sadly, my immature and unhealthy desires predictably did much more harm than good. I started dating too early. I stayed in relationships too long. I experimented too much with our hearts and allowed things to go too far. I said, “I love you,” too soon. And now my singleness is a regular reminder that I messed up, missed opportunities, or did it wrong.
Maybe dating has been hard for you, too, for these reasons or others. Maybe Mr. (or Mrs.) Right has started to look like Mr. (or Mrs.) Myth. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance. Maybe all the suggestions and advice you’ve collected has become a confusing mess of good-intentioned contradictions and ambiguity. It’s enough to leave you like an 8-year-old, asking, “Mom, where do weddings come from?”
Go to this link:
http://www.desiringgod.org/blog/posts/when-the-not-yet-married-meet-dating-to-display-jesus
and read the whole post about the topics below. It is worthy.
2. Know what makes a marriage worth having.
3. Look for clarity more than intimacy.
4. Find a fiancé on the frontlines.
5. Don’t let your mind marry him before the rest of you can.
6. Boundaries make for the best of friends.
7. Consistently include your community.
8. Let all your dating be missionary dating.
Dating That Preserves Marriage
There is a God. And this God created and rules his world, including men, women, the biological compulsions that bind them together, and the institution that declares their union and keeps it sacred and safe. Therefore, only he can prescribe the purpose, parameters, and means of our marriages.If fullness of life could be found in sexual stimulation, or if it was just a matter of making babies, the “forget formality and just have sex” approach might temporarily satisfy cravings and cause enough conception. But God had much more in mind with romance than orgasms or even procreation, and so should we. So must we.
When people in the world are expecting less and less of each other in dating, God isn’t — so among the single we have to work harder in our not-yet married relationships to preserve what marriage ought to picture and provide.
Mom, Where Do Weddings Come From?
Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. From far too young, I longed for the affection, safety, and intimacy I anticipated with a wife.Sadly, my immature and unhealthy desires predictably did much more harm than good. I started dating too early. I stayed in relationships too long. I experimented too much with our hearts and allowed things to go too far. I said, “I love you,” too soon. And now my singleness is a regular reminder that I messed up, missed opportunities, or did it wrong.
Maybe dating has been hard for you, too, for these reasons or others. Maybe Mr. (or Mrs.) Right has started to look like Mr. (or Mrs.) Myth. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance. Maybe all the suggestions and advice you’ve collected has become a confusing mess of good-intentioned contradictions and ambiguity. It’s enough to leave you like an 8-year-old, asking, “Mom, where do weddings come from?”
Go to this link:
http://www.desiringgod.org/blog/posts/when-the-not-yet-married-meet-dating-to-display-jesus
and read the whole post about the topics below. It is worthy.
Expecting More from Marriage
How Then Shall We Date?
1. It really is as simple as they say.2. Know what makes a marriage worth having.
3. Look for clarity more than intimacy.
4. Find a fiancé on the frontlines.
5. Don’t let your mind marry him before the rest of you can.
6. Boundaries make for the best of friends.
7. Consistently include your community.
8. Let all your dating be missionary dating.
